Dear Dr. Becky

Dr. Becky J. Wolery: Profile

I wear many hats just as you all do. I am a psychologist. I am a counselor. I am an educator. I am a crisis worker. I am an interventionist. I am a writer. I am a lover of family. I am a lover of people. I am a lover of life! My great passion is to bring healing to individuals who struggle with difficult experiences or relationships in their lives. I strive to help individuals and families discover valuable insights and deeper understanding which leads to healthier perceptions and strengthen their self-identity and important relationships in their lives. My desire is to help individuals achieve their full potential and find self-fulfillment in their life’s journey.  

 My educational background includes a Doctorate in Applied Psychology from California Southern University. I have a Masters in Social Work from Northwest Nazarene University in Idaho and a Bachelor of Science in Psychology and Health from Eastern Oregon University in Oregon. I am a licensed Psychological Service Extender (PSE) and a Licensed  Clinical Social Worker (LCSW).






Current Presentation Topics:
Mental Health Topics:  Finding Peace in Adversity, Understanding & Managing Depression, The Anxiety and Stress response, Intervening with 
Psychosis, Neurophysiology of Bliss, Breaking the abuse Cycle, Trauma Informed Care

Marriage Presentations: Healthy Communication, Trust in Relationships, Active Listening Skills, Conflict Resolution 101, Effective & Happy Parenting

Business Presentations: Effective Communication in the Workplace, Self-Care for the Professional, Conflict Resolution, Death by Powerpoint, Cultural Competence
Crisis Presentations: Suicide Prevention, Crisis Cycle, Personality Disorders, De-escalation with patients in E.R., Caregivers Crisis Response
College Classes: Psychology, Social Work, Health, Ethnic Studies, Health Classes

Dr. Becky Letter Submissions 




1. Submit your letter to: DearDr.Becky@gmail.com
2. Limit the words to 300.
3. Ask one or two clearly defined questions at the end of your letter.
4. Keep the letter anonymous.
5. Letters will be answered via video at Youtube (Insert URL link to youtube channel)
6. Letter topics can consist of a broad spectrum of issues
7. You will be notified when a video is produced answering your letter.
8. Letter submitted becomes the ownership of Dr. Becky and will be edited if needed.

Example Letters

I have something in the back of my mind that keeps bothering me and I wish I could just erase it from my mind. I have been separated for the past four years. I was married to my wife for ten years. She was my high school sweetheart but now everything has ended. Together we have two wonderful boys. She was always a great mother until we separated. From day one we separated, it was like she detached from my boys as well. It really bothers me that she is not a mother to them anymore. To be honest with you I feel like we do not need her in our lives! My boy’s are now twelve and eight  and they live with me. They don’t mention him her at all. We lived close to her for years but never heard from her, so we moved to another state about 900 miles away. I do not mind ever hearing from her again. My question is how do you forget about the most precious and valuable things in life?-------TRYING TO FORGET

Dear Dr. Becky:
I just turned 17 year old. My boyfriend, "Drew" and I have been together for two years. He is the first boyfriend I have ever had. He asked me to marry him after we had been going out for 3 months and I said yes. He had hinted about asking previously but I had not responded because I didn’t want to hurt him. I care about him very much. I have family and friends telling me that I am young and need to take my time.  I did tell him that I wanted to take it slowly since I am so young and he is only 18.  Drew tells me if I break up with him to date other guys, he will never date me again. Becca, I want to make sure he is the person I want to be with for the rest of my life. I really do feel too young to be engaged or married but I love Drew greatly. I scared of losing him or breaking his heart. I don’t want to destroy this relationship. What can I do to help myself know that I have found my true love? -- STUCK IN LOVE


 Dr. Becky is not able to answer all letters. If you are currently experiencing a crisis and need immediate assistance please call 911. If you are experiencing emotional distress and need a counselor, call the free hotline to locate a counselor near you: 1-800-THERAPIST 
(1-800-843-7284)